Boob sweat takes on a whole ‘nother level in the dead heat of India, FULLY clothed from ankle to elbow. Quick gross side story: We were required to drink over 3 liters of water per day (a little less than a gallon). One day, I drank all of my water and DID NOT have to use the bathroom once…I had sweated it all out…it was hot.

I’ve been on group trips before, but going to India was my first trip as a leader-the only leader of my group. I was held accountable for six other women my age, my peers essentially. Because I was the leader of this small group, I took it upon myself to make sure the women were taken care of. I took the worst seat on the bus, I held the hair when they puked (again, it was mother loving hot there), I walked alone when paired up, you get the picture. And this is not my norm. I have to fit in. I feel like I’m constantly trying to fit in to. this. day.  I practically get anxiety when a group of us goes out to eat because I want to sit in the best spot.

While in India, I noticed as I cared less about myself, it seemed to put me in a position to grow as a leader. I finally got it when I got back to the States: I am my best self when I am not serving myself. THINK ABOUT IT. What kind of person would you be if you were not constantly trying to serve your needs, desires, wishes? Most of these are valid, but again, what kind of person would you be? What kind of self-talk would you have?What would you do? How would it grow you? How would it help others? How would it be perceived? What would you focus on?

For me, I loved my selfless self! It made me a better leader and friend.

If you feel like no one cares, then maybe you should care…for others.